Blues of Moving To a new Crib
We all get excited when we think about moving to a new crib, especially when you’ve never had a place of your own. You think of all the freedom you will be having, coming in and out whenever you feel like, no one forcing you to clean or cook and decorating the place to make it fit your personality. As much as we get over the moon by such thoughts but we never really think of all the stress and how daunting it can be to find a place that suits you and your pocket. If you rushing the whole thing, you might just borrow money from people and you will find yourself in debt. The reality is it will take you months to recover from moving into a new place as it requires a lot of money. That’s why budgeting is important. Remember that sometimes you will pay rent and deposit at the same time and if you moving for the first time, it will be even harder on you. You have to buy bed, pots, dishes, etc. If you relocating, you just got a job and you don’t know anyone who could help you, starting from scratch is the only option you have. That’s why it is very important to plan properly and tell yourself that as much as this will make you lose a lot of money you have saved, but at the same time it’s for your own good, as it will teach you to be responsible and budget from time to time.
Not long ago I was a living with my relatives in very beautiful suburbs for people who live nothing but a lavish lifestyle. Everyone drives a beautiful car, there are no taxis to work: I had to think of something fast. Due to my work that is my everything and anything, I couldn’t leave. I thought of lifts clubs and even searched if there is one available, unfortunately, none was available. I thought of friends and making friends with people who have cars but, I couldn’t do it. Using someone for their car and I have nothing to give to them in return, I can’t be that selfish. It wouldn’t work. It’s just not me. I had to think of something fast. I thought and though, Baam! No need to think anymore coz I only had one option and moving out was that only option I had.
Finding a place is not an easy job but you must put all your mind and heart to it. You have to know the type of place you are looking for.
First things to consider when looking for a place is:
- Your budget: How much am I going to afford rent wise? If it is your first time, do not look for something fancy just to impress people, know your budget, income or monthly allowance and see if you can afford. Some people go for fancy things just to boost their egos only to find that they can’t afford such staff and they end up losing everything or even go back to their parents’ house because of their inability to reason and make right decisions. Even if you get a small place you can revamp it until it becomes you. When I was looking for a place the place I got was small and not so fancy but because of my situation, I told myself that it’s just a start, I will find something better as the time goes by. But later on I figured something out, it’s not really about the place but it’s a lot to do with my creativity. I started by painting the room, adding on more bright colours even on bedding: trust me, it works wonders. I eventually fell in love with the place and now I don’t want to move out.
- Location: City or township, city maybe busy but everything is near and towshi
- Sharing, Bachelor flat or a room: which one is suitable for you currently? Or you want a bachelor or to share; sharing flat: maybe a 2 bedroom is not a bad idea. If you lay some ground rules with your house mates then good but let’s just be honest some people pretend as if they listen whereas they don’t even care. They would still leave the kitchen dirty, full of dirty dishes or leave the bathroom messy. The worst mistake you can do is to share with a couple if you single. That is not a good idea, it will probably keep you single because of the fights you will hear and sometimes, they will be just too happy for you to handle. Also do not make that mistake of sharing with a person of different gender because you might just bump into each other on your way to the bathroom, maybe half naked. It will make thing weird for the two of you. DO NOT share with someone who has a huge age difference as yours, as they will make things difficult for you with some ground rules like no loud music. If you a music lover like me, your days will be hell there.
- Bachelor flat is a very good idea but however, the rent will cost you an arm and a leg but if you able to afford then why not. Bachelors have a lot of space, so therefore you must be willing to spend in order to revamp the place and make it look posche.
- Sharing a room is not a bad idea if it will be just for one month or you really desperate and your budget is not good. The reality is living with someone is never a good idea especially someone you don’t know. Your standards and morals might just clash and cause a huge discomfort with each other. Sometimes you find that a person is not hygienically clean. You will end up cleaning after them all the time.
- Searching tools: have proper searching tools in place other than that you will struggle with finding a place. Use the internet because it is cheap and it makes it easier to find what you looking for. Make use of directories as well or buy newspapers and search on the classifieds.
When you find a place:
- Google its location, where is. How far is it from certain facilities like shops and parks etc
- Call the agent immediately, remember that you not the only one looking for a place to stay. There are thousands of people who are desperate as you are and they won’t wait for nobody, they will snatch the apartment immediately.
- Check the place out, does it meet your needs? Is it what you want?
- DO NOT pay the deposit until you sure that nobody lives there or nobody else has paid the deposit before you. Because sometimes you will find that the room is really not available, some people con people using that strategy. DON’T talk to the tenant renting the room out, talk the land lord or property agent.
- Make sure you marked all of your belongings or bags so that it would be very easy to unpack and when you get an apartment on high floors, make sure you will be able to move up and down with your staff.
- Make sure you have a transport to move all your staff in time
- Look at the place and be creative, decorate and make the place compliment your style and personality.
The day you find a flat, you will run around like a headless chicken. But after moving in, your first night will be sound asleep. Consider the fact that you will struggle maybe for one month but you won’t even realise that you don’t have everything you need because you will be at peace, hello! You sleeping at your own place, the place you’ve worked hard for. Some of us were lucky enough that we got generous people who helped us throughout the whole process, that kinda lifts off the load on your shoulder but don’t relax too much and depend on them because everyone has his own problems. And oh well for some: they had to struggle a bit and with no one to help, but those ones always have a beautiful story to tell I tell you.
Moving is quite stressful especially the fact that you have to start a new life, with new people you don’t even know. The part of making friends shouldn’t be really difficult if you a warm person in nature. But that does not mean you have to go and smile around even for people who are not worth being friends with you. As much as we all humans but some people are just vultures, some would take advantage of your friendship. If you select your friends well, you won’t end up in trouble.